As diaries go, I believe that a good one should encapsulate that moment in words, as such that when you read your musings at a later point in your life, you can actually re-live that moment, feel it, smell it, experience it again. I try to do this by describing what sensations I feel at that very moment when I am writing my thoughts. I like describing the weather, believe it or not, because it brings you back to that very day then you remember. Because what is the whole point of writing down your thoughts if not to remind you of memories and thoughts past, just like what mementos and photographs do. I like to think I am writing my own
and to those who do not know, I am referring to "the Notebook" in the film called
In a nutshell it was about a woman stricken with Alzheimer's (I assume) who wrote her entire love story, to remind her of her life, as her memory starts to fail her. And for a moments each day she does remember. This love story is one of the most gut wrenching, heart breaking stories I have seen in years, even more so than
So, as days go, yesterday was a pretty normal day. I still have my nasty cough and had to brave the gale force winds of 70mph to get to work. I mentioned to Richard that at those speeds there would have already been a storm signal in the Philippines, but then this is England. So got to work and started my routine. You see I cope with life with having routines and making lists, guess I'm just anal. Anyway, listening to the radio, the
dj's were talking about how yesterday, 7
th of Jan was the busiest day for travel agents and divorce lawyers. Travel agents, because people book their holidays and probably would like something to look forward to, now that the yuletide season gone. I wish I could book our holidays, but then we're still in the middle of getting visas for our two girls, so can't really arrange anything. That bugs me a bit, 'cos I like to plan, I like our life mapped out. Well,
nevermind, we will get to that soon enough. Did I tell you that Richard and I are doing the same as we did last year? We will be flying to Bangkok then from there to Manila. You

see Manila is just a skip and a hop from Bangkok and we haven't really had much of a chance to explore the last time, so we are going again. Oh and last night a program on
tv was showing this beach in Thailand, in
Koh Phiphi, where they shot the movie,
The Beach, so I says to Richard,
we ought to go there, to "that" beach, and he says, why? So I says,
because Leonardo's been there, and so he laughs. By the way, Leonardo (
di Caprio) is the protagonist, Richard, in The Beach.
So going back to the radio news about busiest day, I mentioned it to our office manager who then started telling me about how her son who has been with this girl for years and just got married last year is on the brink of his marriage imploding. So is it "the getting married thing" that is ruining the relationship, I ask? And she says, it's really too much work and no time for each other that is the cause. But then I can't help but think that some relationships "do" take a turn for the worse, when the couple decides to take that step. I don't know why but for some reason, some people who have been together for years, just transform after the vows. Maybe some people just think that they do not have to try so hard and couple that with higher expectations from your partner and it's the straight way to disaster. Marriage after all is not what binds you together, it's life experiences and the mutual love for each other with acceptance of each other as you truly are. I know I can be a really horrible brat, but Richard loves me all the same and me him, that's what keeps us together. Then ask yourself, would you "really" like your partner to change as a person? If the answer is no, then that's that.

And still about us, Richard has been lately calling me
chicken. It's his new pet name for me. And as pet names go, I've not had many. And every time he calls me chicken, I call him
pudding. So shall I say that we are on a chicken pudding phase?
Now about today, the high winds are nearly gone, apart from that, no change. In fact the radio DJ was just saying that he is getting sick of the grey clouds. And I am on my way to finally getting rid of my cough, or at least I think I am, not had a fit all night last night, thank you. So all together, I am not having a bad day at all. What about you?